Narcissist at work and behaving strangely?

I lived with a narcissist for 2 years and now i am having problems,he left me when i became pregnant and found someone else to supply him but im not sure what hes doing now.





We have contact due to the baby and ive told him we need to get on for her sake so he can have access,he agreed.He has text me a couple of times and the baby isnt due yet although i have 2 weeks left and he will say hows the baby?


I reply shes fine but the conversation doesnt stop there,he gets quickly offended.He tells me im playing mind games and then starts trying to intiate a fight saying im not trying to get along with him.I am unwilling to volunteer information about anything other than the baby as he has been an emotional vampire as most narcissists are.If anyone has experience with narcissists,we were very close til i got pregnant despite the abuse i experienced and he has quite coldly cast me off and gone onto someone new(he has a new narcissistic supply)





So why is he behaving with rage when i withdraw and begin getting on with my life and it appears that he has done the same???He keeps saying how happy he is and has already rubbed it in my face but i thought once a narcissist found a new supply the other one would no longer be used.Narcissist at work and behaving strangely?
Because your attention ( quite naturally) is now on your baby, and not on the ex boyfriend, he is feeling left out.


Your baby is the most important one to consider, don't let the ex take your energy, that is all he wanted in the first place, you are well rid, you would never have had a life whilst with him.Narcissist at work and behaving strangely?
He is behaving with rage when you withdraw precisely because you have withdrawn. By withdrawing you are taking away his last vestiges of control over you. No vampire likes his supply of fresh blood withdrawn.
Wow, can I relate. Welcome to the he is never the source of the problem or wrong game. If you do not bow down and worship his golden image you will be persecuted for it.
yeh I would ignore him
You've hit the nail on the head when you used the term narcissist. Narcissists just aren't capable of normal or predictable behaviour. They may be absolutely charming %26amp; highly credible when they feel they've got something to gain, but once they've got that all they do is to try %26amp; destroy other people's lives. Their behaviour is unpredictable, their way of operating is to cause confusion whilst at the same time putting on an act of being the worlds most pleasant honest %26amp; straightforward person.


He's behaving with rage because he's got power over you. If he thought he had no power he'd appear to love you. Now he's got you pregnant, that's a link he thinks you can't get out of, so he has no need to put on an act. Instead he can be his real self, angry, abusive, cold, unreliable, hurtful, unpredictable, playing mind games etc. etc.


The downside of this is that if he were to go to a psychologist or psychiatrist for assessment, they'd be totally taken in by his act, just as you were.


The only thing to do is to collect as much evidence as possible of his behaviour (record his voice on your mobile phone, take pictures, keep [all no matter how trivial] documents relating to him), then apply for a court order to keep him away from you %26amp; your daughter.


Sorry! You've got it tough. Like most people you were vulnerable to deception %26amp; you will need every possible help %26amp; support to protect yourself. Most people won't believe you unless they've been through this sort of thing themselves, but eventually you will discover people who can understand %26amp; support you.