How to end a friendship with a narcissist?

I've realized that I've been friends with seriously NPD guy and I've been giving him the benefit of the doubt on all the very insensitive selfish things he's said to me in the past, such as: You are not a priority...I did that for him and not you because he is a friend of mine and he didn't ask- you did....Myriad messed up things....In this case, I have been very good friends with his elderly mother who he lives with, and I have helped them out for years with her aging issues...Now, my father is in the hospital. He fell down the stairs and broke his neck. He's in intensive care now and i've been living at the hospital and very upset.The other night I saw this friend out at our club, when I stopped to have a drink and hopefully find a friendly face to sit with after the hospital, and he didn't even come over to ask how I am..He was picking up a girl and obviously- I didn't matter. In spite of the pain that he could see I am in..He knows he did wrong- he's called me 6 times in the last 24 hours- but he has not apologized-he's just left a message saying a trite, '; sorry I 'didn't have a chance' to come over and talk to you the other night at the club';. HE did- he just didn't. I want this to be over. I am drained from his taking from me and giving nothing back. How do I end this? I have to. But I run into him all the time so I don't want there to be too much ugliness. I am sure he's going to end up being angry at ME for not returning his calls and once again it will be my issue. I am so done. Please help?How to end a friendship with a narcissist?
I lived with a narcissist for most of my 25 year marriage. No, they NEVER CHANGE. My former husband is quite handsome but apparently had some severe self esteem issues, and took delight in rejecting me every step of the way. This made him feel better about himself. These personality types prey on people who are kind, nurturing, and understanding. Like you I continued to reach out to him, hoping that he would change, but he didn't.





If I disagreed with him, he'd shut me out by not speaking. His silence would be endless. I was always the one to break the silence, otherwise, he could go weeks on end without speaking.





He loved taking me out to dinner, or bring home fattening foods. He refused to exercise with me, but exercised alone and stayed fit. I gained weight. This gave him what he needed to criticize and abuse me.





I had surgery and my family and friends had to coerce him into visiting me.





Like you, my dad became gravely ill and I drove hundreds of miles, and faced his long illness and death alone. Yet I was always there in support of his mom and aunt, two wonderful old ladies. He resented their love of me, but never in their presence - only when we were alone. Narcissists always make a point of putting on a good show for onlookers, but never when you're alone.





After years of being ignored, and neglected, and his refusal to get counseling, I finally confronted him while we were alone, and he was furious. In weeks that followed, though not speaking to me, he wanted to teach me how to use a gun. Yes, expect him to become incensed, but take comfort in knowing that you've won the battle.





Once you've decided to dump him, make sure you do it in a public place, or have someone with you. Narcissists only abuse their mates in private, never publicly. They don't want to look bad. Narcissism was one of Jeffrey L. Dahmer's numerous diagnoses. Exercise caution.





I've met a wonderful man who appreciates my patience and love. He on the other hand has gone from woman to woman looking for another victim. Most are young women (our daughter's age). Even they won't put up with his selfishness. I'm adding you to my contacts in case you want to discuss more.








My prayers are with you.How to end a friendship with a narcissist?
just leave it at that dont talk to him anymore you seem to be way more in tune with your emotions then he does and that in itself is an emotional problem he has if he has to be bitter and mean to everyone and never give anything back i am surprised you let him treat you like this this long i would have been tired of that **** a long time ago you don't need to call him leave it at that if he doesn't treat you like a friend to him you are not very important to him and defiantly not his friend in his heart so dont waist your time sweetheart there are better guys out there then him and be surprised when they show that it actually exists men who arnt complete and total *****!